I don’t know what tailscale is, but based on the context, it sounds like what I mean. As long as it’s handling JUST the handles.

Because realistically, from a computer perspective I would still be @Lost_My_Mind@Lemmy.World from a purely technical behind the scenes standpoint.

All my posts, and such would be hosted on Lemmy.World but from a human perspective, I would just be @Lost_My_Mind

So if you mention me, or message me, you’d be using @Lost_My_Mind but the technicals would take that handle, and say "ok, where do I deliver this? Ah, yes, it’s registered at @Lost_My_Mind@Lemmy.World

So thats where the computers would deliver that message. Even though you, the user, don’t even need to know which instance I’m registered at. No need to display that. Make it FEEL centralized, while actually making it decentralized.